Show Notes:
Definition of humble:
- Having or showing a modest or low estimate of one’s own importance
- Can you accomplish greatness with that mindset?
Definition of self-esteem
- Confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect
Nobody else is responsible for building your self esteem
- The world doesn’t care about your self esteem
- Despite what people post online about ‘being nice’
Most of your problems come from a lack of confidence in yourself
- You don’t do b/c you’re not confident in achieving the end result
- Uncertainty
Getting bullied – only solution is self esteem
- Only hurts when you don’t think highly of yourself
- Ex: Magic forum cyberbully (thumb gangsters)
- You can’t get bullied unless you accept THEIR story of you
Your Story vs Their Story
- What’s the story you tell yourself in your head?
- Ex: Can’t do something b/c of…(excuse)
- Ex: They say you have a big nose… “Uh ok. Is that your fetish?”
Average people want you to lower your self-esteem b/c it makes them feel better
- Crabs in a bucket
- Mayweather’s father didn’t tell him to not think he’s great
- Tiger Woods, Kobe, Jordan, Elon Musk…they told themselves a different story
- They will say: “He’s arrogant/cocky”
- Successful people understand
- Ex: Mike Tyson on Deontay Wilder saying he will beat Tyson
- Tyson’s response: “He has to think like that. I thought that too”
The story in your head vs Story you say out loud
- Say it out loud = cocky
- Keep it to yourself = humble
Confidence comes from competence
- You develop self-esteem by knowing the truth (about you)
- Can’t tell Tiger Woods he sucks. He knows he doesn’t
- Don’t need to say it…you need to show it
- “I’m the greatest” vs “I’m going to be the greatest”
- “I’m the greatest” = complacent & don’t improve
- “Going to be…” = always improving (allows you to stay on top)
Doesn’t mean you’re cocky
- You’re aware of what you’re good at & not good at
- Only real confidence can admit what they’re not good at
You have to think highly of yourself to accomplish great things
- Allows you to destroy obstacles
- Problems, people, anything
- Become delusional – “against all odds, you’re going to do it”
- Elon Musk – they said it can’t be done, he said “I’ll show”
- The only people who WILL do it are the ones who believe they CAN do it
This isn’t affirmations
- Affirmations is when you’re trying to convince yourself of something you’re not
- Confidence is when you know it to be true (you have reason for believing)
- Ex: Ali – “I’m the greatest”, part showmanship but also knew the work he put into it
- Ex: Elon Musk – he understood the science behind it
- They understood they can ‘get there’ rather than thinking ‘I’m already there’
You have to have a chip on your shoulder b/c of what it does to you psychologically
- Beliefs are more about what they do to you rather than whether or not they’re true
- What does the thought do to you?
- Ex: Mike Tyson – “I’m going to kill him”
- Hit with bad intentions
- Believe it’s possible = you try
- Don’t believe? = won’t even start
Self esteem = built through competence
Stop accepting the story people create for you
- “You’re weird”
- “You’re crazy”
- “It’s not possible”
- “You’re too old”
Start creating the story YOU want for YOU
- Self esteem allows you to create your story
Stop being so humble. Create YOUR story